Introduction
In our previous article regarding Soul Mates I explained what they are - really, and then we had fun with the topic of Soul Mate Hunting and Wrangling, but on a serious note please keep in mind that the Soul Mate relationship is unlike any other interactive relationship known to man or woman-kind. It is all encompassing and enduring through life's joys and hardships. It is sacred.

Daily, clients ask me to mentally profile their mates and supply insight to their personal intimate relationships. In order to do this accurately I like to break down the most prominent issues of a relationship in a procedure I call "appraising the Relationship's Real Estate".

The Living Room
This is where you and your mate congregate with each other's family members. Are you compatible with each other's families? If you do not get along with one or a few of your mates family members, identify who and why not. Ask yourself, do the ones you identify as hostile versus friendly conflict with your mate or just with you? Do you feel your mate fits in with your family? If you are unsure ask your mate for his or her perspective, otherwise it's just your opinion. Remember that when you marry someone you marry the family. Each and every one of us is a combination of our Mother's and Fathers. No cracks in the plaster should be unattended to in this room.

The Kitchen
This is the room that a couple sits in to solve financial problems, negotiate important decisions, eat, have a cup of sunshine and argue. This is the room where we discover our compatibility in general morals, ethics, living standards and tolerance levels. This room has to be kept in good order, open and honest, or food poisoning sets in. This is a big, big room. It is the heart of the home.

The Front Porch
This is the overall presentation or images that you two - as a couple- present to the neighbors, the façade. Do you argue in public? Does one of you delight in making the other look small in front of friends? Do you both use code words to get messages to each other in public like when you want to leave the party because you had too much of the business partner's mate already? And is that request respected by your mate or ignored? Many couples don't realize that public appearance can enhance or erode an intimate relationship quickly. This is the area of relationship real estate that other people view first. And other people make their observations known ---often in hurtful ways. If the front porch is a mess it leaves a lasting impression.

The Rec. Room
This is where you are relaxed, being yourself with all your bad habits and bad hair days. Sports widows and shopping widows wouldn't feel so alone if they had looked into this room and sorted it out before they got married. Does your mate snore and you have insomnia? Do you both enjoy the same type of books and can you both handle companionable silences. Mates should have some dissimilar interests to provide space for individuality. However, if you are both always off doing your own thing, alone, chances are you will be replaced by a TV remote control.

The Bedroom
This special room is reserved for sharing each other's hopes, secrets, fears and even failures. Do you each feel absolutely safe in the other's care should you be rendered incapable of helping yourself? Is either of you constantly testing the other's loyalty or jealousies? Do you flirt with danger to see if your mate cares? Do you flirt romantically with each other or has boredom set in? All these questions and more need to be answered, and they are, in this one of the most important rooms of the relationship. This room can create or break the intimacy. It is the primary purchasing feature of your relationship real estate.

The Dinning Room
Do you fit in with each other's friends? Do you find yourself justifying your love of your mate to your friends-a lot? Are you willing to let your mate have friends or are you possessive and isolating and looking for excuses to keep your mate all to yourself? Remember that one can't live on love alone. Other people flesh out your world.