People and pets have a natural tendency to use very specific areas of the home to express particular emotions. For example: children are more apt to argue in the living room, recreational /TV room, backyard and kitchen than they are to argue in the bathroom. Children are also more apt to express feelings of fear and insecurities in their bedrooms, the parent's bedroom, the family bathroom, and the home office/den. We know there is always an exception to any given rule, but it would be useful for you to take notice of where the members of your family (including pets) express particular emotions throughout their habitat. Useful because you will be far ahead in the emotional energy management of your environment.

By taking notice of the homes emotionally expressive areas, you will find it easier to notice the same of your work environment's energy details.

Adults tend to notice that it feels odd to have an argument in a certain rooms of the home or business establishments - yet appropriate in other rooms. An argument or difference of opinion may start in the kitchen and continue as the couple walk through other parts of the home, such as the bedroom, the living room, etc. While this is transpiring, one will find that there are areas of the home where maintaining or continuing a disagreement is felt to be wholly inappropriate. This is not an etiquette issue, it is an issue of the homes overall energy placement and the homes energy evolution. An argument, or even a type of argument may feel as though it is somehow damaging the sanctity or integral purpose of that particular room. However, the same argument that feels wrong in one room may feel very right and appropriate in another.

When an argument breaks out in a home , it should stay in one room. When an argument becomes too heated then there should be other areas of the home that one can retreat to that are off limits to negative energy, rooms that no one is allowed to invade. With most families, this non-invasion rule is one that is just understood rather than verbalized -- the unspoken rule.

There are areas of the home, that by their nature, can help greatly to diffuse harsh emotions. If this area has not been noticed naturally by the family members then one should be chosen as an area of the house that can be considered a sanctuary where no arguments are carried into. If an argument is begun in this area it must be understood that the argument must be moved to a more appropriate area/room. A retreat area must be wholeheartedly respected by all members of the home. The sanctity of the area must also be gently enforced. Keep in mind that in the heat of a discussion people will forget the new rule and must be reminded. The family must also agree that the area is not to be abused - there are times when people will instinctively run and hide from their problems but that is not the purpose of the retreat area. The one who is enforcing the sanctity of the area must also gently remind the family members that while cooling off or regrouping one's thoughts and emotions are beneficial, procrastination is detrimental. Topics
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For a wide variety of spiritual and psychological reasons there are certain areas of the home that will actually instigate particular types/topics of argument.

The following is a compilation of the most common topics of arguments in the average home and some insight as to where these arguments would be best conducted. This insight regarding types of argument and the appropriate rooms in which to conduct debates or disagreements in, is based on Kimberlee Dawn and Suzanne Horner's experience with clients; through observing how energy is dispersed throughout the average home and how it is created by the human being to begin with. Each home is different, each family is different, these are tips not absolute rules and while you may apply some, others may just be impossible for you and your family. But as the saying goes - some is better than none!

1) Discussions regarding Sex
Never argue about sex in the bedroom - wounds are created and not forgotten, they should not be remembered in the one place of the home that should be stress free and/or healing regarding this issue. Choose another area like the office/den which promotes a business like efficiency and great ground for the mental mechanics necessary to solve or make any headway toward solving sexual problems. The living room is usually a good place to discuss sex. Don't forget that kids and pets always know if mommy, and daddy are having sex or not. Kids recognize sexual energy like little radar monitors, without necessarily understanding what it is. It is basic human nature that children perceive the mating habits of their parents as productive and the overall energy is that of security. If Mom and Dad are doing it, then all is well, if they are not, then all is unbalanced and security is threatened - they don't have to be told or catch mom and dad in the act, they can feel it in the air so to speak.

2) Re: Money
Keep it in the kitchen, try to keep it businesslike and don't hide it from the kids either. Again, kids know that life is not a bowl full of cherries - when a situation comes up that demands attention, let the children know that money doesn't grow on trees as it helps prepare them for real life! This isn't to say you lay the real heavies on them, but don't entirely exclude them either. The reason we suggest the kitchen is that it usually begins in this room anyhow, and is a place where home creation concepts (like cooking or cleaning) and emotional debates are usually held on a mass basis amongst the family members. The kitchen is the heart of the home!

3) Re: Domestic Duties
Limit this topic to the kitchen, office/den, living room, and surprisingly the laundry room.

4) Re: Rules of Behavior For Adults
This argument will always start or work it's way into the kitchen, laundry room, or garage so may as well begin and keep it there. Not in the bedroom, office/den, or recreational room.

5) Re: Rules of Behavior For Children
Can be discussed in the bedroom, bathroom, laundry room, kitchen, or garage.

6) Re: Friends and extended family relationship rules
Quietly in the living room, bathroom, kitchen. Children should not be privy to these discussions. Not only do they repeat things you must also consider than when a problem with a loved one is solved and when all is forgiven and forgotten, the children still remember your words and your energy byproducts you manufactured during the discussion. Children do not have the emotional experience to put their parent's words of anger or pain aside and just forget them - children will continue to think negatively of the loved one discussed.

7) Re: Personal/shared business conflicts
Can be taken care of in the back yard, garage, kitchen, laundry room, but definitely not in the office/ work areas, as that negative energy will hang there and disturb your business performance.

8) Re: Neighbors
Kitchen, office/den, laundry room. Diplomacy is needed in working out the mechanics of how to deal with neighborhood issues. Just make sure they can't hear you discussing them.

9) Re: Pets
Pets are like children in the way that they both find comfort in the kitchen, bathroom ,and bedroom, so avoid discussing issues about your pets in those areas as they pick up on the energy and it takes them awhile to again find peace in their favorite spots. The craft, sewing, or workshop and exercise areas of the home should never be tainted with negative energy, or at least protected as much as is possible. These areas must be conductive to creative, meditative, stress-relieving energy, rather that stressful argumentative energy. Many people "brood" in their craft or workshop rooms and this is not a bad thing, actually these are places that promote "daydreaming" which is a minor type of meditation. One can solve many problems while performing mundane or creative tasks but the energy that brooding or dwelling on a problem creates is usually quickly diffused and the "creative" energy takes over. However, out and out arguing in these areas creates a denser energy that is not as easily diffused by the creative energy.

An interesting note: plants will reflect the positive or negative energy in a room. If a couple argues around plants notice if the plant(s) wilt a bit in response or produce dry foliage. This note was brought up by many clients who were quite shocked that not only do their plants respond to music but to the homes overall emotional energy climate as well.