Grandma's favorite chair, heirlooms, antiques, anything anyone else owned before it came into your habitat should be handled carefully and not just because they are breakable items. This is also to true regarding a couple's personal possessions such as furniture the accumulated before they lived together and now are combining. A lot of people have real problems with each other's stuff because energy has accumulated on each item like glue and may not be harmonious to the new living arrangement's overall energies. This isn't just a matter of different taste in design and items such as velvet paint- by-number Nudes vs. Picassos. No, this issue runs so much deeper than art appreciation and really hits where it hurts; it is a matter of combining personal body energies that may or may not work well together and so can cause conflict in the couple's happy home. Example: If the male mate is bringing in a sofa that he made-out with other women on, well then, it's really quite best to sell the item to a young single guy who is not yet domesticated and who would appreciate the make-out energy the sofa is entombed of. The males new mate may not know that the couch was a make-out rocket launching pad, but she can feel it! Energy is invisible but it sure is physical! And it will grate on her nerves like sandpaper on a cotton ball or perhaps make her cry- depending on the babe. The male will indeed be sorry he didn't get rid of the offending item. Another example: Females should not bring into a new mates living environment every item she was ever gifted with by ex-mates. This again is insulting, hurtful or grating to the new male, and he will respond to this energy, not necessarily pleasantly. (No, I'm not suggesting violence or insinuating that it is a male habit! So, please don't e-mail your hateful comments to our addresses.)

I am continually asked the same question by my clients. Femme's always ask: "Why is it that he always accidentally breaks my stuff but never his own? Is it really an accident?" Well, no femme-babe, actually it is not usually broken by mistake or accident. The big guy will indeed find himself clumsy, distracted and generally messed up when around energy that indicates you slept with a bunch of other guys - duh - yes, even if you were married to them. This is a natural reaction by humans to energy that is deemed painful. Yes ladies this energy actually causes the big brute to hurt, and generally they don't like to cry so they act out in other ways. Just as cats will leave their marks on things they like a lot and also on things they hate and so are trying to make subservient-- forcing their dominance. So will doggies. So do men and women.

When men and women perceive something they don't like or which makes them uncomfortable they tend to contrive to remove it from their presence; and often this results in unconsciously making sure the item will never again be in their vicinity by smashing it to bits and calling it a dishwashing accident.

Men ask a similar question: "Why did she put my sofa in the garage...or in the basement...or in the garbage? "Well honey", I say in reply with a smirk on my face, "that's because it was really really ugly - I know you didn't know that because you bought it when you were a boy, before you knew about a real man's interior decorating tricks. But you're a man now, all big and strong and world-wise." Or "Maybe your lady was in PMS mode, you can understand that can't you?" or "Your wife isn't a bitch, the item just didn't fit with the rest of the decore, blah blah blah". Why am I more gentle with this answer when speaking to men than with femmes, you may ask? Because it is considered (by men) healthy, normal and wholesome for them to have a series of sex-friends before they mate up once and for all. It would insult their very virility if I suggested otherwise. Due to this some men can't handle the truth that their youthful promiscuous habits are considered (by many women) to be sluttish. (Yes, women do use this word -slut - when talking about some men not just in jealousy when casting a critical eye upon other women with nicer, firmer and much bigger boobs). The double standard of "men should but women shouldn't" was obviously created by a few insecure control- freakish men-- certainly not by real women. And while the double standard is misguided and contrary to human nature, it is still widely held as truth. Seldom do men realize that women in general actually think this way, truth be told, women don't criticize men for being sluts to their faces. But, women still think it, and when the energy of an item says her love-bug was humping the women from neighborhoods far and wide, she will find (creatively of course) excuses to remove the object from her sight and/or manipulatively cry a river of tears until he can't stand the item any more either and throws it out himself. But she will not tell him he was a slut and that this knowledge hurts her - to his face. Why? Because she too may believe that it is normal and acceptable to uphold these weird double standards. It's human nature. You don't have to like it but it is very common. Suffice it to say that bringing ex-lover's gifts and items reminiscent of them is not a good idea - unless your mate likes that kind of thing.

Emotional Energy is shed much like dead skin cells are continually shed -95% of the dust found in your home is actually dead skin cells. Like dust, the energy of your home is made from each and every inhabitant including previous residents whom you may or may not know. All the pets, people, spiders, flies and mice-- including all their personal belongings -- emit energy which collects like dust bunnies under a bed.

The energy your body emits which is termed by Kimberlee Dawn as Personal Body Energy (one of the three primary energies your body is contained of), sheds and disperses in the local area collecting on surrounding items like globs of invisible glue. Example: You have a favorite chair and everyone knows it's yours, even strangers to your home will sense that this chair should not be sat upon by themselves. It might be the best, most attractive chair in the house, but they will tend to choose another sitting spot. This is not to say they are uncomfortable sitting in your chair if invited to do so, but you will notice a hesitation because they sense a lot of concentrated energy in that spot and recognize it as yours, also recognizing the spot is personal to you and often guests think twice before invading your very personal space. If the energy you have glommed on to the chair is particularly pleasing to your guest he/she may not wait to be invited, rather may rush to the chair and stay there for hours. Even so, you will still notice that the wild attraction to the chair is because the guest recognized it's energy as either pleasing or forbidding (and degrees of emotional energy in-between). You can be guaranteed they aren't just hoping they'll find a coin under the cushion.

Now, what if the couple is really into classic pieces and antiques? Will they run into trouble? Every person needs to stylize their living quarters with personal touches. Otherwise the love shack is just a few walls and a rug - cold and empty of anything that says "we live here - really live here". The first rule is: don't forget to include your mate in this procedure for an antiques acquisition. The second rule is: antiques must not be chosen strictly for their monetary value nor just their appearance. It is best if you find an item you love, put it on hold, stand around it, run your hands and your mental eye over the item for awhile, really feel it. Then, put a small holding deposit down on the item, go away for coffee (or better yet, overnight), come back and "feel" the item again. Ask yourself, does it still feel like it belongs with you, your home and your mate (include pets please)? You might be surprised.

Most people who collect antiques for their monetary value are used to the diversity of energies that come along with this hobby/occupation and are people who tend to be able to tolerate a few energies that other's would find disturbing - it's a talent. Some people can tolerate loud noises others can't - same thing conceptually. Also keep in mind that antique dealers and collectors for monetary value are usually anticipating the item being sold and removed from their care within short periods of time, they often disassociate themselves emotionally from the item(s) and/or they learn to quickly. This relates to more of an intellectual endeavor moreso than the home decorator's emotional endeavors. Yes, home decorating is based as much (and often more) on emotionalization than of anything else pertaining to Cheryl Gillespie or Martha Stewart's great home styling tips.

What about family heirlooms? As an example, perhaps you couldn't stand creepy Uncle Joe but he left you a fabulous china cabinet worth more than you make in a year. Yahoo? Problem every time you dust it, look at it, show it off, you think of Uncle Joe and the negative connotations you associate with him. Another problem: Uncle Joe's accumulated personal body energy is smeared all over the piece and as this energy disperses (as it will) it contaminates other items and even whole rooms in your lovely, house which you designed to be your personal sanctuary -- the place where the Uncle Joe's of the world can't get at you. Granted, it's a great piece - but frankly not worth the emotional work it takes to keep it. I suggest that in this case you sell it, or have it professionally "cleaned" which refers to a psychic art by where an item, person or place is "cleared" of all but the most essential operating energies - psychic housekeeping so to speak. And be aware that even should you consult a psychic it may be suggested, by that same psychic, that you do sell the piece or give it to another suitable family member.

The psychic isn't being lazy and refusing the work, rather there are times when a piece just shouldn't be cleared as it ruins the piece. Literally destroying the long term psychic / spiritual meaning of the piece i.e.: the reason it is entombed of the energy it is - know that the piece won't be perceived as negative to everyone else. A psychic may also suggest selling a piece because clearing the energy from the item does not clear away the damage that Uncle Joe may have created psychologically for you; if the psychic has perceived that the damage runs deep, he/she will let you know that it is best to just get rid of the item ASAP. After all, it is not healthy to keep reminders of memories best left alone or that you should not be constantly reminded of on your journey to emotional recovery.

If the psychic does indeed suggest selling the item, do not take it as an insult, he/she is doing you a favor and obviously caring that you are well serviced in both the psychic mechanical and spiritual issues of the situation. At this point you have either brought the item to the psychic for evaluation or the psychic has had to come to you, depending on the size of the item in question (some psychics ask for a photograph of the item and can effectively evaluate/diagnose the item's energy based on the picture rather than having to touch or be in the vicinity of the object). At this point in your dealings with the psychic you should only have paid the normal consulting fee, you should not have had to pay for the "psychic dusting" job as the psychic did not perform the "clearing" itself. If the psychic offers to "take the item off your hands for a small sum of moolah" say no. The psychic is probably self-serving and obviously directing you to sell for their own personal benefit. This is seriously unethical practice and frowned upon by the legitimate psychic community. If you know the psychic is accurate in relating the history and undercurrents of the item, such as the associated psychological problems, and if the psychic offers a fair price, go for it. It is true that psychics can tolerate energies that other people cannot, and will purchase items that other people would not. You can always ask for a second opinion if you don't agree with the psychics assessment and or if you don't feel trusting of the psychics motives. Consider that the psychic is being honest with you and even though you may not appreciate or agree with his/her advice, a second opinion may turn out to be with someone more interested in your money than your well being. In this case, also consider that the second psychic may not perform his/her duties with all the care and attention to detail that is required of the clearing procedure. When money seems to be the most important issue to the psychic, walk away. In either case you are now educated in the various issues regarding combining personal items from two homes into one. You can trust yourself to go forward knowing that you put a lot of consideration into the living arrangements and you know what to do if things go wrong.

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